Teenagers Struggle To Get Through High School: Adults Share Their Best Advice

In a viral post on Reddit’s r/teenagers, someone shared the valuable lessons they had learned throughout life. Their post received more than 51.2K upvotes and 1.4k comments as teenagers thanked them for their input.

For some people, high school can be a very tough experience. It’s a time of rapid physical and emotional changes. It can be difficult to make new friends, figure out who you are, and navigate relationships with peers. Managing these issues can be especially challenging without proper support and guidance.

One Redditor shared their best tips and advice for high schoolers. Pass this down to your loved ones— whether nieces and nephews, children, or grandchildren— if you think it will help them in their life journey.

1. You’re Not Going to Find Your Soulmate in School

Don’t worry if you don’t find the perfect person for you in high school or college— chances are, that’s not going to happen, according to the poster.

Focus on your studies and education instead; they’re more important than they may seem right now!

2. Relationships End, But Your Life Doesn’t

Breakups are tough, but that doesn’t mean your life is over. Instead, it presents an opportunity for personal growth and change; It is a learning experience.

Even if it is a horrible breakup, he was cheating on you, or your best friend was involved, it gives you a chance to remove those toxic people from your life and start fresh. You will find someone who deserves your attention, effort, and love.

3. Don’t Try to Please Everyone

Don’t try to gain the approval of everybody around you and especially not your peers. You do not need to be the “cool kid” in class, and it’s okay if they disapprove.

Despite what it may feel like at times, chances are everyone is far more concerned about themselves than they are about you.

4. Quit Dwelling On Your Mistakes

Don’t let the ridicule of a few people make you feel ashamed. Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone has experienced moments like yours. And, if those insensitive individuals have laughed at your expense, chances are that they, too, can recall similar experiences in their past.

Everyone makes mistakes. It’s inevitable – we all do something silly or embarrassing at some point in our lives, and while it may cause us to feel ashamed, the moment passes, and all is forgotten.

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5. Don’t Give Up

Don’t be disheartened if your high school experience doesn’t turn out as planned. The end of school marks a fresh start— you won’t have to deal with bullies, drama, or false relationships anymore.

College professors are a different story, but the amount of stress released when you finish high school is incredible!

Don’t let someone else make you give up on life. There are so many new things to experience and explore when you leave school, and it will all be worth it in the end. Keep going, and don’t give up!

6. You Will Not Grow Up

Another user chimed in. “I hope I can add something to this: you will NOT grow up! You won’t magically change when turning 18 or 21 or 30; your mind will always stay like it is now.”

As we age, our minds may change and adapt to new experiences, but there is no real moment when one can say they are officially “grown up.”

Even people in their 80s still feel like they haven’t reached that point yet. Growing older does not necessarily mean growing up; it simply means gaining more experience and learning from your mistakes.

There is no definitive time or age when you instantly become an adult who can take on all of life’s responsibilities. Everyone matures in their own way, at their own pace. It takes more than just a number to grow up!

7. Stop Focusing on Your Flaws; No One Else Is

Another user commented: “We aren’t wired to focus on each other’s shortcomings; we see the person and how great they are.”

Don’t focus too much on your flaws— no one else is paying as close attention to your mistakes as you are.

We all have moments of embarrassment or failure, but they quickly pass and are forgotten by everyone around us. Try to remember that everyone else is far more focused on their own issues than they are on yours.

Don’t let the criticism of others keep you from enjoying life and growing as a person. You have so much potential, don’t give up! Keep going and see where your journey takes you.


Overall, being a teenager is tough. It’s easy to get caught up in drama and peer pressure, but it’s important to remember that life is full of ups and downs.

Based on your experience, what advice would you give your younger self or to all those high schoolers out there?

This post, called Best Advice to Teenagers, was syndicated and produced by TPR Teaching. The article has been inspired by Reddit and does not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of TPR Teaching.


Caitriona Maria is an education writer and founder of TPR Teaching, crafting inspiring pieces that promote the importance of developing new skills. For 7 years, she has been committed to providing students with the best learning opportunities possible, both domestically and abroad. Dedicated to unlocking students' potential, Caitriona has taught English in several countries and continues to explore new cultures through her travels.

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