One Woman’s “Selfish” Choice of Childlessness Led to a Life of Happiness and Fulfillment

“I have known my entire life that I wasn’t going to have children.” 

In a thought-provoking TikTok video, a woman expressed her perplexity at people questioning her choice for not having children. This sparked a stitch response from a 48-year-old woman, username ‘gvizzle_74’, who eloquently shared her perspective on why she has never wanted kids.

Childhood Revelations

“It’s not a decision I made; it’s something I have always known.” 

She went on to say, “When I was five, my best friend wanted to play house, and I said, hmm, let’s play neighbors,” showcasing her early inclination for a life without the responsibilities of motherhood. 

“When I was seven, I told my Mom and said if I ever get married, I’m not having kids, and I have heard it all…”

‘You’re not a real woman if you don’t have kids.’ False.

‘You’re never gonna know love if you don’t have kids.’ Also false.

‘But the love is different’, sure it is, because the love I have for my husband is different from the love I have for my dogs, I love my Mom in a different way than I love my friends, I love pizza in a different way than I love coffee, it’s all different.”

A Life Well-Lived

For this woman and her husband, life without children has proven to be immensely fulfilling. “People say, ‘What if you meet the perfect man for you, but he wanted to have kids?’ Well then, Barbara, he’s not the perfect man for me.” 

She goes on to say that when they met, her husband, in fact, he did want kids, and she didn’t, “I was like Oh s-–, I’m wasting his time. Luckily, he changed his mind, and here we are twenty-seven years later.”

“I don’t understand how someone could live in a house without a dog. To me, a house without a dog is an empty home. Other people feel that way about children. Both those feelings are valid, but that means I don’t get to tell you to get a dog, and you don’t get to tell me to have children.”

Navigating Stereotypes

Navigating societal stereotypes and the persistent questioning of her choices has been far from effortless. 

Throughout her life, she has encountered a barrage of comments laden with stereotypes, 

“‘Who will take care of you when you’re older?’ Like senior care facilities aren’t full of parents whose kids dropped them off and never visited.” She points out.

Happiness Without Children

In response to the often-made claim that children are the key to happiness, she confidently declares, “My husband and I take care of each other; we take care of our dogs; we’ve never had to transition from husband and wife to Mom and Dad, back to being empty nesters, We’re not responsible for anyone else, other than ourselves and each other, and it is perfection.”

Her stance firmly rejects the notion that her decision to remain childless diminishes her womanhood in any way.

Instead, she passionately expresses the importance of respecting diverse life choices, emphasizing that there’s no one-size-fits-all formula for fulfillment and contentment.

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Supportive Friendships

She takes immense pride in being the go-to friend for her besties to turn to when they need a break from their parenting responsibilities. “I don’t hang out with my friends and their kids. I am the friend they go to when they are tired from hanging out with their other Mommy friends.”

“If there’s ever a time where the kids are in the same area, the kids play together, the adults are together, I’m not playing f—— mouse trap with anyone.”

While she deeply values her friendships, she openly admits to preferring to spend time with her friends without their children.

Questioning Parenthood

One crucial point she raises is the necessity for individuals to think more regarding their desire to have children, “People should question why they want to have children just as much as people who don’t wanna have children, question it and think about it because not everyone should be a parent. No one plans to be a s—– parent, but there’s a ton of s—– parents out there.”

Her belief strongly highlights the point that parenthood isn’t a universal path, advocating for a thoughtful and conscious decision-making process when it comes to bringing children into the world.

@gvizzle_74 #stitch with @Maelen S. Repeat after me, “I fail to understand how my life choices impact you in any way.” You don’t owe anyone an explanation. ##childfree##childfreebychoice##childfreelife##childfreetiktok##noregrets##GoodDeedsCup ♬ original sound – gvizzle

No Regrets

Throughout her life, this woman has held steadfast to her decision to remain childless, “However, if the day ever shall come when I do regret it, I would rather spend the next forty years regretting not having kids than spend the last twenty years and the next forty regretting having had them.”

This thought-provoking perspective underscores the notion that happiness and fulfillment can manifest diversely, and individuals should be respected for the choices they make regarding parenthood.


This article was produced by TPR Teaching.

Caitriona Maria is an education writer and founder of TPR Teaching, crafting inspiring pieces that promote the importance of developing new skills. For 7 years, she has been committed to providing students with the best learning opportunities possible, both domestically and abroad. Dedicated to unlocking students' potential, Caitriona has taught English in several countries and continues to explore new cultures through her travels.

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