His Ex Refused to Vaccinate Daughter So He Applied For Custody

After discovering that his ex-wife had faked their immunocompromised daughter’s vaccination records, this online user wrote in an advice forum to request suggestions for immediate legal action. “My daughter is in the hospital because my ex decided to let her beliefs come before our child’s health,” the father wrote, “How do I approach this to make sure my ex suffers?”

Their Relationship Came to an End

According to his original post, this Redditor’s young daughter was born premature and, as a result, has a compromised immune system. Because the user separated from his ex-girlfriend prior to the birth, they shared 50/50 joint custody over the child. A contributing factor to the relationship’s end was his ex-partner’s “anti-science” beliefs.

The Child Needed to Receive Vaccines

When the daughter was old enough to attend school, the user offered to pay full tuition for a private institution with a special program for immunocompromised children.

This school required all students to be fully vaccinated, following medical guidance.

The Center for Disease Control establishes that patients with weak immune systems should receive vaccinations when possible, excepting specific conditions that indicate otherwise.

Because their daughter’s health had substantially improved, doctors recommended that she receive vaccinations for certain common viruses among schoolchildren, including chicken pox and the flu. “My ex fought me up and down on this, and we ended up in court,” the father recounted. “The judge agreed with me and ordered my daughter to be vaccinated.”

The Vaccines Would Poison Her

Per the Redditor’s retelling, their ex-girlfriend “had a full breakdown but … agreed only on the condition [that] she get to take her [daughter] to ‘lessen the emotional damage and make sure the doctor doesn’t poison her.’” The ex-partner also agreed to supply medical forms as proof of vaccination.

She Got Very Sick

In a provoking turn of events, the user revealed that, shortly after starting school, their daughter was hospitalized with a dangerous case of varicella (also known as chicken pox).

“I have been stressed out from the minute I got the call and confused as [to] how she got it,” he shared since their daughter was allegedly vaccinated for the disease.

Sensing her parent’s concern, the young girl confessed to the “secret” her mother had made her promise to keep. “Turns out my ex didn’t vaccinate her,” the Redditor wrote. “She made my daughter lie about it. Instead, she has been using ‘special oils and salts to keep [their child] from getting sick.’”

Incensed, the user then contacted their doctor, who confirmed that his signature on the vaccination forms had been forged.

The Father Had Enough of the Lies

“I’m p**sed, to say the least. … My ex doesn’t know [that] I know yet, and I told my daughter not to tell her. I want [the ex] gone now,” the father concluded. “I’m planning on speaking to a lawyer, but I would like to know what to do.”

To the satisfaction of dozens of Redditors in the comment section, the outraged parent provided a highly-requested update soon after.

“My daughter is safe with me and was let out of the hospital about a week ago. She is getting better every day,” he disclosed.

“After I made that post, I took the advice given to me and … I told [my daughter] that it was wrong of me to ask her to keep secrets and that it’s ok to tell her mom.”

Filing For Custody

In terms of legal action, the father immediately filed for emergency custody of their child and reached out to a trusted lawyer: “He told me that this is ‘a case lawyers salivate over’ and that my ex is in a lot of trouble.”

The attorney began by requesting the original court order that mandated their daughter receive vaccinations. Although the doctor abstained from initiating his own legal proceedings, he requested that the original user file a police report with the forged vaccination forms as evidence.

The Mom Made a Scene

According to the original poster, his ex-partner soon got wind of the proceedings and confronted them at the hospital. She started a commotion in front of their child, shouting threats and accusing the user of wanting to “poison [their] daughter.”

The mother was then banned from the hospital by staff and escorted out of the building.

Afterward, the father received an onslaught of furious texts calling him a ‘monster.’ These were forwarded to his lawyer, who replied: “[S]he’s what lawyers dream of when they hear who’s on the other side of the court.”

The Father Was Granted Custody

Redditors were pleased to learn that the father was granted emergency custody until the next hearing. This second post concluded cheerfully: “I have heard that the [district attorney] is slowly getting ready to move forward with a multitude of charges against my ex, and that will land her in jail soon-ish.”

Unfortunately, interested commenters were left in the dark for almost three years until the father posted a final update. “To give the short answer first, I have full custody of my daughter, and my ex is barred from having any contact with her,” the original user wrote before detailing the “grueling” five-month-long custody battle that followed his previous post.

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Once the father was granted emergency custody, his ex-partner intensified the levels of harassment. As a consequence of trying to remove their daughter from his home, she was arrested for attempted forced entry. In combination with the DA’s medical forgery charges, this incident was enough to result in a month of jail time for the mother.

Due to this condemning series of events, the father and child received a protection order against his ex-girlfriend, which ultimately worked in his favor: “When we finally got in front of a judge, I was given full custody of my daughter.”

The Mother Didn’t Stand a Chance

The child’s mother and her lawyer further alienated the judge by “trying to claim that I had planned this all from the start. Forcing her into a corner to vaccinate our daughter so I could use her response to initiate the custody battle.” As a result, the woman “lost all custodial rights” and was legally barred from contacting her daughter in any way. 

After reaching a plea deal, the child’s mother was charged with a felony and sentenced to two years in prison for forgery. Since her early release due to COVID-19, the ex-girlfriend “went off the conspiracy deep end.”

Per his account, she is now a QAnon supporter and dates someone involved with the January 6th attack on the Capitol. “[The ex] has disappeared from my daughter’s life entirely.”

He Remains Grateful and Hopeful in His Outlook

“[T]he last few years dealing with a global pandemic and an immunocompromised daughter have aged me three decades,” he reflected in conclusion. The father added that his child is now vaccinated and looking forward to returning to in-person schooling. “I am grateful every day to have my daughter with me, safe and in a place where she can slowly grow and get healthier.”

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Caitriona Maria is an education writer and founder of TPR Teaching, crafting inspiring pieces that promote the importance of developing new skills. For 7 years, she has been committed to providing students with the best learning opportunities possible, both domestically and abroad. Dedicated to unlocking students' potential, Caitriona has taught English in several countries and continues to explore new cultures through her travels.

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