Wife Wants to Get Nose Job, But When Husband Supports Her Decision, He’s The Bad Guy

Beauty standards differ worldwide, and embracing oneself is vital. A husband initially supported his wife when she thought about getting a nose job, sparking conflict in their relationship.

He accepts Her as she is

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“I love my wife,” the husband makes it abundantly clear before he shares his story. “We’ve been married for 3 years and there’s nothing I would change about her…” The problem comes a little after his declaration.

His wife hates her nose.

She Always Has Something to Say

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For years, the woman has complained about this one feature. It’s too large. It’s too hooked. It’s ugly. Like any good spouse, the husband immediately tried to make her feel better. “I would try to comfort her and tell her it’s beautiful and she doesn’t have to change anything.”

She Absolutely Hated What She Looked Like

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She never believed him. The wife hated what she saw in the mirror and complained every single day.

The husband’s attempts to comfort her only led to fights. She’d get aggressive and yell. She’d call him a liar, assuming he just said what he thought she wanted to hear. It began to put a major strain on the marriage.

He is Proud of their heritage

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Except her husband wasn’t lying. Not only did he like her nose, but he also has a very similar nose himself and felt proud of the heritage it represented.

Her complaints rubbed him the wrong way. “It’s really uncomfortable for me to hear her complaints because we both have the same nose (big crooked Middle Eastern nose), so every time she says how disgusting and ugly she finds her nose to be, it breaks my heart a bit because I can’t help but wonder if she feels the same way about my nose too.”

What Could Be the Reason?

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He wondered if the issue ran deeper. Maybe she experienced racism or some other trauma around her nose? It made sense, considering that his wife was super confident about everything else. “She loves how she looks,” he shared—with the exception of her nose. He tried suggesting therapy casually at various points in their relationship, to no avail.

She Thought of getting a nose job

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One day, a different solution fell into their laps.

“Two weeks ago, she got a raise at her job,” the husband wrote, “and today, she suggested the idea of getting a nose job.”

A nose job would definitely fix the issue. While he had no problem with her nose, she clearly spent her whole life hating it. The level of mental distress it caused her, regardless of what he said, merited a drastic solution.

he supported her idea

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So, when his wife suggested the procedure, he offered his full support. “I said that if she’s that insecure about it to the point that it’s affecting her mental health, then she should get it done.”

Well, that was clearly the wrong thing to say.

Her unexpected reaction

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His wife EXPLODED. She was p—ed, and her feelings were hurt. “She… said that I should’ve said no to the idea,” the husband lamented. “She left the house to go to her mother’s, and I haven’t been able to get in touch with her since.”

Social Media Users Weigh In

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Social media users were sympathetic to the husband’s position. He had tried to affirm his wife in her beauty, but that backfired. Then he tried to support her decision to make a change, but that, too backfired.

Many felt it was a lose-lose situation. “There’s no winning here,” one person commented. “She would have been mad either way. She needs to either make peace with her nose or change it.”

She needs therapy, not a nose job

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Others agreed. One woman went as far as to suggest that the wife apologize for putting him in such a terrible position. “So she’s insecure and miserable in her insecurity, proposed a solution that would actually fix her issue, and then goes and gets offended when you agree with her? Bro. There was no winning there for you… As a woman, I’m telling you that she owes you an apology for whatever the h*** that was.”

She Needs Therapy, Not a Nose Job

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Some users felt the solution was therapy. They want the wife to unpack her insecurities and get help, saying, “She should spend that extra income on therapy.”

she realizes her struggles

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It appears the wife will be taking that route.

In an update, the husband shared that—for now—his wife has decided against the nose job. She is spending the raise on body dysmorphia therapy.

Body Dysmorphic Disorder

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According to Mayo Clinic, body dysmorphic disorder is “a mental health condition in which you can’t stop thinking about one or more perceived defects or flaws in your appearance — a flaw that appears minor or can’t be seen by others.” This condition may explain the wife’s fixation on her nose.

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In a world where certain body types and looks are hailed above others, it is easy to develop crippling insecurities. Therapy will hopefully help this wife overcome those insecurities and improve the couple’s marriage. The online community is rooting for her.

This article was produced and syndicated by TPR Teaching. Source.

Caitriona Maria is an education writer and founder of TPR Teaching, crafting inspiring pieces that promote the importance of developing new skills. For 7 years, she has been committed to providing students with the best learning opportunities possible, both domestically and abroad. Dedicated to unlocking students' potential, Caitriona has taught English in several countries and continues to explore new cultures through her travels.

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