I Didn’t Invite My Son-in-Law to Christmas – “It’s Not My Fault He’s Less Successful”

Family dissension is nothing new, but for one woman, it’s worth more than a little outrage. She’s furious at her husband’s son for not fitting in with her family and is determined to have the internet agree with her.

The unnamed woman turns to the internet forum Reddit for feedback, bravely asking the initial question, ‘Am I the a–hole’ in relation to her quandary. Over four thousand comments later, one can only assume her pride is wounded.

Wife Inherited Two Stepchildren…and Apparently She’s Not Happy About It

“My husband has two kids,” the woman writes. She explains that the older child, a daughter, lives in another country and does not have much contact with them. The second child, meanwhile, a 31-year-old son, lives just 15 minutes away. 

“Their real mother died when they were both in their teens,” she says bluntly.

Going on to explain that her husband’s younger son is “not a bad guy,” the woman adds that he is “just very different” to her husband and herself.

The Woman Already Has a Family and Has No Need for More

Switching gears, she adds, “I also have a son of my own,” explaining that he is aged 41 and a successful stockbroker who is married with three kids. “My husband’s son is still single,” she says, promptly leading into the crux of the issue.

“This usually causes problems over Christmas,” she says, “as I like to spend it with my son and his family, and I expect my husband to join.”

The woman continues blithely as if the separation from father and son wasn’t enough. 

The Eighth Deadly Sin: Jeans and a T-Shirt

“We invited his son along four years ago, and even though he did try to fit in, it just wasn’t a good fit. He thought it appropriate to show up in jeans and a t-shirt.”

The woman continues to express that she was so embarrassed at his state of dress that she could hardly look anyone in the eyes.

Son Gets Chocolates and a Few Minutes With His Dad, Instead of an Invite

After the travesty that was jeans and a t-shirt, the woman says she decided not to invite him to Christmas anymore. Cut to this Christmas, and she and her husband show up at his home early in the morning. 

“We had plans to go over to my son’s house at around 11,” she says, “so we didn’t really have time, so we just dropped off a gift for him and left. He bought nothing for us.”

The argument arises later in the day when the woman’s husband texts his son to ask if he has had a good day.

“Oh right, that’s what today was,” replies the son. “Thanks for the chocolate and the three-minute visit.”

Woman Furious at Son’s Impertinence 

Outrage ensues as the woman admits she saw red, acknowledging that her husband was also upset by the message.

“I wanted to contact him and put him in his place, but my husband took my phone away and told me to let it go,” she writes.

“It’s been two days now, him and my husband are talking again and both seem to have just moved past it, but I’m still mad. It’s not my fault that he is less successful than my family and just can’t fit in with us.”

The Son Doesn’t Measure Up…And That’s Not Her Fault

She adds a caveat at the end of her post, saying that her husband and his son had lived a slightly lower-class life before she came into the picture, so it is not her fault for the son’s way of life. 

“Am I the idiot?” she questions. The internet takes a collective breath and responds.

“I don’t even know where to start explaining why,” one response reads after declaring that the woman is in the wrong. “You seem arrogant, condescending, judgemental, and probably not a lot of fun to spend time with.”

The Internet is Far From Impressed

“I can see why the daughter is low contact,” admitted another person.

“Classist trash,” declares another.

With an overwhelming response likening the woman to a “wicked stepmother,” it is nearly impossible to find a supportive comment in the sea of disgust that is the comment section.

Alongside comments in support of the son, others admit that their dress code on Christmas Day would have the woman “clutching her pearls.”

One even says, “I didn’t even wear pants on Christmas Day.”

A Resounding Disapproval…With Low Results

The Original Poster responded only once to the comments, saying she would not tolerate the hate.

“My family lives their life a certain way,” she reinstated. “It’s not about the way he dressed, but just that he was clearly out of his depth with my son and his family.”

Her comment garnered over four thousand ‘downvotes’, which indicates readers’ dissatisfaction. The audience, therefore, firmly communicates that they do feel she was the ‘a–hole’ in the situation.

And for those curious as to whether she has changed her ways, according to her more recent posts, the answer is a resounding no.


This article was produced by TPR Teaching. Original Source. 

Caitriona Maria is an education writer and founder of TPR Teaching, crafting inspiring pieces that promote the importance of developing new skills. For 7 years, she has been committed to providing students with the best learning opportunities possible, both domestically and abroad. Dedicated to unlocking students' potential, Caitriona has taught English in several countries and continues to explore new cultures through her travels.

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