“My Wife And I” or “My Wife and Me?” Which is Correct?

Which is correct: “my wife and I” or “my wife and me”?

Some people falsely assume that it should always be “my wife and I” and “my husband and I.” The answer may surprise you – it depends on the context in which the phrase is used.

We can use both “my wife and I” and “my wife and me” in an English sentence.

We say “my wife and me” as the object of the sentence. We say “my wife and I” as the subject of the sentence.

Here are two examples to show the difference:

  • “My wife and I went to the shop.”
  • “Can you please give my wife and me more information about it?”

Let’s examine and explain the differences between “my wife and I” and “my wife and me” in this article.

My Wife and I

“My wife and I went to the shop to buy some vegetables.” Is this a correct sentence?

Break up the sentence by focusing on each individual person.

Is it correct to say, “I went to the store to buy some vegetables?” Yes! The pronoun “I” is called the subject of the sentence. The person doing the action is I.

Let’s try another sentence.

“My wife and me went to the shop to buy some vegetables.” Is this a correct sentence?

Again, break the sentence into parts that focus on each individual. Is it correct to say: “Me went to the store to buy some vegetables?” Absolutely not!

This means that it is not grammatically correct to say “my wife and me” in this sentence.

We use the phrase “my wife and I” when talking about the subject of the sentence.

My Wife and Me

“The relatives invited my wife and me to the barbecue.” Is this a correct sentence?

Break up the sentence by focusing on each individual person.

Is it correct to say, “The relatives invited me to the barbecue?” Yes, it is! The pronoun “me” is considered the object of the sentence. The person receiving the action is me.

Let’s try another sentence.

“The relatives invited my husband and I to the barbecue.” Is this a correct sentence?

Again, examine each person in the sentence. Is it correct to say: “the relatives invited I to the barbecue?” Absolutely not!

Therefore, it is not grammatically correct to say “my wife and I” in this sentence.

Subject and Object Pronouns

It is helpful to know what subject and object pronouns are to master this topic.

Subject pronouns: I, you, he, she, it, we, they

Object pronouns: Me, you, him, her, it, us, them

The subject of the sentence is the person or thing performing the verb’s action.

The object of the sentence is the one who receives or is directed by the activity.

For more, see our subject and object pronoun example sentences.

“My wife and I” phrase act as the subject. “My wife and me” phrase acts as the object.

Examples of Sentences With “My Wife and I”

Here are some examples of sentences using “my wife and I”:

  • My wife and I went to the market.
  • My wife and I are going on a trip to Europe next week.
  • My wife and I have been married for five years now.
  • Do you mind if my wife and I join you?
  • My wife and I would like to order the steak, please.
  • My wife and I are looking forward to attending the comedy show.
  • My wife and I think there is a problem with the pipes.
  • My wife and I are grateful for your help.
  • My wife and I send our deepest condolences.
  • My wife and I wish you all the best in your future endeavors.
  • I hope you don’t mind if my wife and I join you for lunch.
  • Can my wife and I change our seats, please?
  • My wife and I would like to order the fish, please.

Examples of Sentences With “My Wife and Me”

Here are some examples of sentences using “my wife and me”:

  • Thank you for inviting my wife and me to your party.
  • The family likes my wife and me.
  • Can you please take a picture of my wife and me in front of the Eiffel Tower?
  • Do you want to join my wife and me for a cup of coffee?
  • The invitation said my wife and me should dress formally.
  • My boss introduced my wife and me to the new clients.
  • The doctor told my wife and me that we needed to be more careful.
  • Do you want my wife and me to come with you?
  • Please let my wife and me know if there is anything we need to do.
  • Thank you for including my wife and me in your will.

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In Conclusion

When deciding whether to use “my wife and I” or “my wife and me,” always break the sentence into parts and focus on each individual person.

If the pronoun is the subject of the sentence, then use “my wife and I.” If the pronoun is the object of the sentence, then use “my wife and me.”

I hope this article has helped clear up any confusion about this topic!

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