A woman went viral on social media for her story about her husband who takes from food banks despite her telling him not to. Was she wrong for leaving him?
Feeling conflicted after leaving home over the way her husband ‘buys’ groceries, this woman took to the Internet to determine whether she had overreacted. Was there actually anything wrong with her husband’s regular trips to the food bank?
“I’ve been in a committed relationship with my husband for 17 years, and overall, things have been great,” the wife recounted in her post. The couple has had their struggles, but they have always been financially secure.
Currently, the wife works as a part-time teacher while simultaneously going back to school. Most of what she earns goes to pay for her university tuition.
They Had a Lot of Money
In their family, the husband is considered the primary breadwinner. However, in addition to his high-paying job, the couple also receives financial assistance from the wife’s considerable trust fund. “Our household income exceeds $200k annually, while the average in our area is below $50k,” she explained.
Yet Her Husband Was so Frugal
According to her version of events, their happy marriage has only faced one type of money problem: her husband’s excessive frugality. This allegedly extends to the household budget—he enjoys having the “final say” on how he spends his money while also controlling how his wife spends hers. It is worth noting that the woman does not touch his savings since they fund their personal expenditures separately.
He Went to the Food Bank
However, tensions in the home finally boiled over a long-standing dispute: the husband’s routine visits to food banks. “Despite having more than enough food at home, he insists on going to food banks to save money,” she revealed. “He intentionally looks disheveled and uses our beat-up car to blend in, even though he’s never experienced food scarcity.”
He Doesn’t Have a Clue About Food Shortages
None of the wife’s objections have ever dissuaded her husband from going back for more food.
Per her account, she has repeatedly explained the real need for donations in their community and suggested that he educate himself by volunteering instead.
The husband is apparently unmoved by all arguments and continues to frequent food banks: “The unfortunate part is that since we’re never short on food, most of what he brings home ends up getting thrown away.’
Her Husband Did a Big “Shopping”
Frustrated by her husband’s callousness, the wife reached her wit’s when she discovered their fridge full of “fresh produce and meat that clearly didn’t come from their regular grocery store.” Once interrogated, the husband confessed to attending a food bank advertised on Facebook.
The Food Bank Donations Ran Out For Those Who Needed It
When the wife looked up the social media post, she discovered comments by those who were unable to pick up groceries because the food bank had already run out of donations. The husband defended his actions, “claiming people should have gone earlier.”
The Wife Upped and Left To Her Brother’s Home
No longer able to cope with his attitude, the wife left to stay with her brother for the weekend and take some time to reevaluate her long-term relationship.
“My husband accuses me of overreacting, being vindictive, and threatens to go back to the food banks regardless of my feelings,” she shared, adding that his family has also barraged her and her brother with accusatory texts. “Am I wrong for wanting this space?”
Social Media Reacted to The Story
Not in the slightest, decreed the users who clamored to express their support for the wife in her comment section.
“This is completely unhinged. A man making 200k while married to a woman with a trust fund going to a food bank is unacceptable,” wrote one fellow Redditor, who was outraged enough to suggest divorce: “… You are absolutely not wrong to want space. I would want permanent space.”
Another commenter theorized on why the well-off husband would fixate on food banks: “Some rich people would do this, not out of a poverty or trauma mindset, but out of a wealth-hoarding mindset. They don’t tip at restaurants, and they always want a bargain.”
“They see their frugality as the virtue that brings them wealth and often perceive poor people as wasteful (and therefore deserving of their poverty),” the commenter concluded.
It May Be Considered Illegal
Bolstered by the Redditors’ support, the wife began requesting suggestions for stopping this behavior.
One user pointed out that her husband’s actions could be considered theft: “Most food banks make you sign a paper stating you make under a certain amount to be eligible to use the service, indicating you are in need. If he is providing a false income statement to them in order to be allowed to get food, he is stealing.”
Let The Food Bank Know
“If I were [the wife], I would be thinking about calling in a tip to the food bank,” advised the same user. “Hopefully, they will just not allow him to get food in the future, but if they look to press charges [then] he has earned them. What an entitled j*rk.”
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