In a viral post, an unhappy mother has detailed how a parent threw a Build-A-Bear birthday party… and then promptly ruined it.
“Is this normal or am I being entitled,” the parent asks an online forum, explaining how she had taken her six-year-old daughter to a Build-A-Bear party earlier that day.
“The party was being held at Build-A-Bear, but it wasn’t run by employees. We had cake and pizza in the food court, then went down to BAB to make bears, then back to [the] friend’s house for the rest of the party.”
Each Child Told To Make A Bear
While it sounds innocent enough thus far, the further she delves into the story, the more peculiar it becomes. “The invitation said each kid would get to make a bear,” the parent says, recounting that there were about eight children total. “I just assumed they would get to take them home.”
Noting that she knew costs could be high, the parent explained that she and her husband chipped in about 30 dollars to help out.
The Children Have An Enjoyable Time
“We get to the store, and the kids go wild getting their animals and accessories. As far as I know, the parents didn’t really put a limit, but I made my daughter stick to just a standard dog with a shirt, which about half the parents did as well.”
Told To Hand Over Their Bears, Amidst Cries
Bears completed, the poster then states how, upon leaving the store, the friend’s mom announced that all of the kids needed to give their animals to her daughter, the birthday girl.
“Cue the upset and angry kids,” she says, adding that most did hand over their animals, though with disappointment. “The friend wasn’t even being nice about it either,” she remembers.
The interaction gets weirder as the children are forced to separate from their new creations. “Another little boy didn’t want to,” the parent notes, saying that the birthday girl “ripped it out of his hands.”
Mom Felt So Bad, She Ended Up Going Back
“I probably should have said something, but I didn’t,” the parent says. “The other parents seemed pretty baffled, too.”
After returning back to the birthday girl’s house, the parent remembers how all of the children are just sitting, watching their friend play with all of her new animals.
“I left with my daughter quickly,” the mom says. “Once we got back into the car, she just started bawling. I felt bad so we went to Build-A-Bear and got her a new one.”
Is This Normal?
The situation is jarring, and the parent is both confused and upset. “I’m just wondering if this is totally normal and I should have expected this, or am I being an entitled parent,” she wonders, adding that many of the children also brought presents for the birthday girl, adding to her substantial pile of bears and gifts.
Confronted The Mother To No Avail
Later, the woman adds an update to her post, though it does nothing to soften the mishap.
“Me and another parent had the chance to talk with the mom of the party,” she says, later noting that she’s not a confrontational person.
When asked about the bears, the birthday girl’s mom explained that she wanted her daughter to have a special animal decorated by each of her friends, saying that she didn’t have enough money for each of the guests to make their own.
Not Enough Money For Others, But Enough For Birthday Girl
“What bothers me,” the original poster wrote after the interaction, “is that she said she didn’t have enough money for all the kids to have one, but she did have enough for her daughter to get like eight bears.”
The birthday girl’s mother did say she would see to giving the 30 dollars back since it had not gone toward a bear for her daughter, but the damage seems to have been done.
No One Is Fighting, But Things Are Not Good
Signing off by saying that nobody was fighting over the situation and it seemed to have been somewhat worked out, the woman then leaves the information in the hands of the internet for scrutiny.
And scrutinize they do.
“That is really weird,” one user says. “I can’t believe the parents made all the kids give away their bears.”
“Better watch out for any invite to anything from this mom,” another user says. “Anyone who does something like stealing toys from six-year-olds isn’t right in the head.”
Create An Emotional Attachment And Then Rip It Apart
“They have you kiss the bear’s heart,” one user cries. “That is so intimate and loving, the act of building a bear for the kid; it’s the closest thing to being forced to give away their ‘child.’” They follow up, saying that they would be traumatized and that the parents’ actions were “so twisted and wrong.”
Could It Have Been Managed Better?
The only rationale visible within the thousand comments is that perhaps the taking of the bears would have been more accepted had it been announced well in advance to the party.
“If they had said upfront, ‘Oh our kid is a huge BAB fan, and we thought it would be really fun if instead of presents, every child made a bear especially for our daughter,’” one user points out, “then each parent could have managed their child’s expectations, and everyone would have been prepared to give up their bears.”
One Party Could Have Long-Term Effects
As it is, there was no warning for the six-year-olds or the parents. Commenters describe the behavior as ‘monstrous,’ saying that everyone was put on the spot on purpose, and it seems that the original poster agrees.
When prompted by another saying they would never let the children hang out together again, she responded, “I honestly feel that way right now.”
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